Dating & Comedy
Okay, dating and comedy. Let’s talk about it.
This week, I wasn’t sure what to write about so I turned to Instagram and asked my humans for some topics. Two very funny women suggested I talk about dating and comedy. My initial reaction to their suggestions was, aw that's cute they think I do that.
As someone who is newly sober, dating hasn’t necessarily been on my radar. Let’s add standup comedy and living in New York City. On one end, you would think, what could be so hard? You’re in a city with over eight million people, surrounded by other comics and people every week, out late, etc. What could be so difficult?
Some people say this is the greatest city for dating and some say it’s the worst. There are so many people here, so many options. The paradox of choice. If you’re not familiar, the paradox of choice is an observation that instead of bringing happiness and ensuring you get what you want, the more options you have leaves you anxious and dissatisfied wondering if you made the right decision.
(This makes it sound like I am swimming in options…. I am not, at least not to my knowledge).
The point I am making is that in today’s world we have dating apps and can find people at the click of a button. I personally do not have the apps on my phone. I have had them before but each time I had them I found myself shallowly swiping, judging on image alone and feeling empty and let down. I have a lot of close people in my life who have met and married incredible people on these apps so no shade, but I personally have not enjoyed my experience.
Meeting someone in the wild would mean …being in the wild. Now that I have stopped drinking, I don’t frequent clubs and bars. Most of my close friends are in serious relationships, married and starting families. My idea of a night out includes dinner and dessert if I am feeling WiLd and then going home. Lately, most nights, if I am not out at a comedy club, I am home, relaxing in a sweatsuit.
What about other comedians? I would like to be with someone who is funny, passionate and going after their dreams, yes. But dating other comedians is like dating a coworker. It’s not fun to go to the office after a breakup and the last thing you want is everyone knowing your business. You never want a heartbreak to turn into a tagline either.
Okay, so no apps, no wild, no comics. I don’t get why I am single? Kidding, I think it’s me and my close minded perspective. UGH! Don’t you hate it when you realize all of your problems are self-inflicted?
If you need me, you can find me at a bar, swiping on dating apps and sliding into the DMs of other comics… imagine. No, that’s a joke but I will figure something out. In the meantime, being single is pretty cool.
Okay, that’s enough over sharing for now. See you next week!